Embrace the Mess and Go on with your badself!

I can only imagine the gasps of my daughter when she sees this title.  She thinks I’m so old because I once said, “ooh, that’s a bad car!” Okay…I realize that no one really says that anymore, but whatever.  I’ve witnessed so much in the mere 37 years…almost 38 years that I’ve been on the planet to know that growing old is a blessing…that stress…even so-called good stress is soooooo overrrated.  I’ve decided to simply have no part in it anymore. It’s not that I’m naive to the problems that might arise in life, but I am more aware of how much control I have over those events. In most cases, I have no control.  In some others, I understand that even then I have to be completely led by the Holy Spirit to do the right thing.  Even then, I mess up.

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I’ve messed up a lot all my life….yep, I’m not going to sit here and say, “lately” because an inventory of reality shouts that I should have a doctorate in mess ups by now.  Regardless, the beauty of loving me as God does is that in all that….He still does….He knew it before I knew it so whether I keep my Christ-like position in mind in a moment of potential road rage, or I decide to flip the bird to that person who decides to cut me off, God still loves me.  That helps me in this moment and I imagine the many that are to come because I’m able to embrace my mistakes and understand that with every breath I have an opportunity to choose another option the next time.

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Have I got it all together right now…absolutely not…and here’s the deal…none of us will ever have it all together until Christ returns to take us home.  Warning, this does not give you permission to do any old thing and take God’s grace for granted.  What it is instead is permission to actually receive the grace Christ died to give you when you need it.  And in turn give that same grace to others when you can give it.  Humility is not becoming a door mat…it is becoming a stepping stone for someone else to come up because they witness your selflessness in willing bringing yourself lower.  I was about to say I don’t know where that came from, but that would be lying wouldn’t it. Of course I know the Lord led me to put that…to read that…to know that about myself and also for anywho else reads this message that’s taken me exactly 5 minutes to conjure.  No editing…just flowing in what God gives…that is all…be blessed and yeah…I’m kinda likeing and loving the new me!

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Peace!!  Oh yeah…people don’t say that anymore either do they?  Whatever…I do!!!

©2016 Nadia Davis. All Rights Reserved.

Ladies, Know Your Worth

It’s time to change the rules of engagement!

When I worked at a major fine jewelry chain several years ago, most days I was confronted with a myriad of emotions directly related to the comments made by perspective clients.  The ones that really got my attention and yes on my nerves were those who were cheap!!!

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Trust, I tried to figure out a way around using that word, but I really couldn’t gather another one that would fit so there it is….CHEAP!!!

Well, notice I said that I worked at a FINE JEWELRY establishment…that meant that the merchandise there was behind a protective case for a reason. Its value was well worth the price and it was secured because it was not meant for just “anybody” to have access to it.

Yet, time and time again, I was met with countless “eye-buyers!”

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If you have ever worked in retail for commission, I’m sure you understand my frustration.

But honestly, it wasn’t solely based on the shopper’s inability to buy the merchandise; it was their attitude in the process.

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I’m a visionary so I’m quick to go into a store and “prepare for my future.”  I may not have a dime in my pocket, but I know what I like and I know what God said I can have so I don’t have a problem acknowledging what I can’t afford, YET!!!!

In fact, I did it a few weeks ago!  Yes the earrings I saw were $2K and I don’t know how I’m going to get them, but those diamond hoops are definitely in my near future. After all I am the daughter of a King!  Why wouldn’t I anticipate the best?

Well, I didn’t always believe that.  In fact, just a few months back I had begun to forget God’s grace.  Yet, doesn’t He have a lovely way of reminding us of His faithfulness?

Sure He does!

Since then, I have decided that no matter what I face, I will keep an attitude of expectation because I know GREAT EXPECTATIONS LEAD TO GREAT RESULTS!!!

I know my Heavenly Father adores me and He always wants what’s best for me. Granted I’ve been delayed from some of the things I want and I was a bit upset initially, but now I know I’m safer in His will.  Even still, He graciously reminds me all the time that He never breaks a promise.

As it happens, just the other day when a cloud of doubt tried to crop up, a car got in front of me with the license plate TRUSTME

Also, this morning I was on autopilot as I was singing and praising and drove right by my son’s school.  I decided that no matter what I would not be disturbed by the trivial anymore.  After I dropped him off, a car got in front of me with PRZ GOD.  I continued and later saw W84ME.  Each time I know God knew what I’d been wondering and almost worried about.  Still He lovingly assured me of His presence and His favor by the little things I tend to notice that others might not.  I know in His eyes I’m priceless and I’ve learned to see myself the same way.

That said, it saddens me to see so many of my sisters not see themselves as such. Instead of the fearfully and wonderfully made creatures God made them to be, they sulk under the misguided interpretation that because they have made mistakes or that their picture doesn’t match the photo-shopped images in magazines that they are worthless.

They complain about attracting the wrong guys and not having any luck in relationships, but the real problem is that they haven’t acknowledged the standard in place so they can receive God’s best.

I shared that same plight at one time and I’m determined never to measure my self-worth by past mistakes, ill-perceived flaws, and definitely not by what anyone else thinks or says because God’s shared a secret with me that all His daughters can claim.

God endowed me with

Proverbs 31:10 Amplified Bible (AMP)

10 A capable, intelligent, and [a]virtuous woman—who is he who can find her? She is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls.

Ladies, regardless of past mistakes, even if it was last night I suggest you consider yourself fine jewelry=secure, worth the investment, and the real thing because to God you too are priceless to allow just anyone to handle you.  
©2015 Nadia Davis.  All Rights Reserved.

Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff

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So I woke up today and where was my cell phone? With my daughter of course…where it had been possibly for the last two weeks since school’s been out. She’s been begging for a phone again.  I gave her one before, but took it away…too young…too irresponsible…too expensive!!!

She’s been trying to show me that she’s ready to be connected “like everybody else”

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Well, when I went to check my messages I sort of freaked.  I had none!  So I checked my contacts…again…it was blank!

Until that moment I didn’t realize how dumb my smart phone had made me.  I could not remember a soul’s phone number, email address, actual address or otherwise.

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I woke her up frantically demanding she tell me what she did!!!  Yet, as soon as she began to stir, I regretted the way I had.  I wasn’t completely over the top, but my approach was all wrong nonetheless.  So I apologized to her, allowed her to go back to sleep, and later repented quietly in the next room.

Job 2:10 reminded me what I should’ve, could’ve, and would’ve done had I taken a moment to really consider the situation before reacting in vain.  In fact, had I remembered the foolishness resulting in a prior post, things might have gone better as well.  But oh well…

10 But he said to her, “You speak as one of the foolish women would speak.Shall we receive good from God, and shall we not receive evil?”[a] In all this Job did not sin with his lips.

When I caught myself, I had to ask myself some pretty hard questions?

  • Why was I sweating something so trivial?
  • Could my mini temper tantrum change the results of what already happened?

In a word, “NO!”

That said, I realized that my reaction to the things my children do and don’t do are more important than what actually occurs.  Regardless of whether Kayla was the culprit this time or whether it was a technology glitch, what matters is that my daughter knows I love her unconditionally.

I know for a fact that flipping out over something so small has the tendency to do much greater harm to a child in the long run so I’m glad she was too sleepy to really realize what was going on. However, I’m glad I was fully aware.

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Seriously though, sometimes AGAPE love is spelled by simply not sweating the small stuff.  I’m glad I get it now. 

©2015 Nadia Davis. All Rights Reserved.

Hey Ladies and Gents,

I’m curious.  Have there been times you’ve found yourself sweating the small stuff? Tell me your story below!