Better Not Bitter

Responding God's Way to Life's Challenges


September 2017

Embrace What’s Right with YOU!

I’ve always been one to find errors immediately. On signs…in books…on television…in speech…I’ve had a knack for correcting things since I was seven…always considering other, better, and more efficient ways of doing most things I’ve observed. In fact, I have to purposely make myself not read my posts at times because I can’t help making the corrections (I know there are errors- for now😇)…so if you have eagle eye for errors…you’ll notice some…at least for the last year I’ve been intentional that way…I use ellipses often so I’m not bound to the tight writing in most things I prefer to read…I attempt to use slang…it started because of a meeting of minds I experienced not long ago…I was told to stop editing myself...I’ve tried…for months I failed…I hadn’t fully surrendered then…

That post is right here

Fast forward to my now…I realize what I used to call a curse a blessing…that my keen attention to detail…about something being slightly off center…or the use of words like “lie” instead of “lay” when a reference is made to an object an obvious error to me a plus…how even when I was a child I boldly corrected my teacher for telling us there had been only seven types of dinosaurs…I was seven…she should have known better and since she didn’t act like it, I raised my hand and told her so. I was respectful still…unconvinced she got my drift when she insisted I was wrong in front of the class, I brought to school the encyclopedia I’d become fascinated with by age four to show her how wrong she had been indeed…expecting an apology Mrs. Turner just refused to like anything else about me that year…I suppose then as I do now…I expect honesty…to me her excuse that she lied to us was because our grade level would not have been able to understand that much didn’t make sense… I did…so I suppose that’s when the lie that I shouldn’t be so smart was planted…shortly thereafter I was told to be shy…called shy, but God made me to be bold…

I understand now how much of a disservice I’ve done myself and those I’ve met over the years because I chose to dumb myself down for fear of rejection

More about that one is here:

I’m not speaking from a place of regret, but of awareness. I understand that a well-rounded education requires pits in the process so I’m grateful for the transition now that I’m seeing it from the other side…

Necessary Evils they are...those lies planted by the enemy in the guise of well-meaning elders or not so well-meaning bullies…those who might have called you fat or ugly because of the beauty others saw in you or that you once saw in yourself was too much for them to compete with so they chose to beat you up because they wouldn’t dare fathom the insurmountable task of perhaps asking instead, “where do you get that joy? How can I be like you?” I know all too well that bullying doesn’t stop with high school or even college…that if you believe the lie that you’re weird, stupid, not good enough…it doesn’t take long for one to find you.

Bet you didn’t consider yourself your own bully, huh? Yep, too often do we become our own biggest critic because someone in our lives posted something…said something or perhaps didn’t say something we thought they should have…regardless of how the seed was planted…we still have a choice…

All are the result of choices…my wholeness is one choice I had to make myself…no input of naysayers or any others…I had to decide to be me…to love me…to receive all God designated for me…to embrace everything right with me...I wouldn’t say I’m a genius, but I truly believe God’s blessed me with the ability to do anything well…He gifted me with the ability to see the errors because He knew I’d be instrumental in changing the scope of His world…attention to the details of the forgotten ones has always been my draw…I was the one to befriend the new kid…to still speak kindly to the one everyone talked about…I was the one wondering the why behind their condition…

I can laugh now because even then God had been forming my heart of compassion for the broken, for the un-churched, for those in church, but feeling shunned…even those so weakened by church hurt they refuse to go back…I used to think I was too sensitive…that I shouldn’t care so much…

I’m so glad I’ve shattered that depiction of me…that I realize my love for others is a gift from God…and how the pain of who I was pretending to be was what was really hurting me all along. Being who you are is the only way you will ever be truly whole.

I understand while people may murmur about the things I do for others when at times I have nothing to spare but time is just part of who I am.

So when I consider all the things that I observe other ladies and gents doing to adapt to “societal”norms, I have to wonder whether the only change necessary is one’s perspective of said society. Rather, perhaps what needs to be adapted is the minds of those individuals…then they will see themselves as God sees them…No, not as those who “say” they represent Christ sees them, but they will know they’re seen with mercy and compassion…seen as His beloved.

That said, focusing on what’s wrong is overrated…from now on do yourself a favor and embrace what’s right with you!

©2017 Nadia Davis. All Rights Reserved.

Your Sweet Tooth May Just Kill You!

Wow…I know…pretty morbid title…but now that I have your attention…this is just a public service announcement or reminder:

The enemy doesn’t have to kill you if he can convince you to do it for him!

As much as I love to bake sweet treats, I’ve come to realize how much my inability to pump my brakes on my consumption of sugar has impacted my health. This little info graph is interesting: 

I’m not trying to make you fearful. I’m learning to be more disciplined with my consumption of a lot lately so I thought I’d pass it along. Though my vitals are always great, I know that when I reduced my water intake and increased my sugar and caffeine why it seemed I wasn’t actually as able to rest properly, was fatigued constantly, and felt like I went back through puberty. Stress and the inflammation caused by too much sugar and too little watee had dramatically upset the balance in my body and what was toxic on the inside was showing up on the outside. And yes folks. I give Glory to God for this revelation too! Yes. There are studies out there…yes I read a lot and research more, but God brought back to my remembrance a radio program I used to listen to when I was in AR that discussed natural alternatives to reverse the diseases our culture has created. 

I thought about that show and desired to find it, but didn’t know where to start so so did nothing. But God allowed a link to the very info I needed to come to my phone a couple nights later. That info got me off to a great start because while I’m big on  taking vitamins and supplements…they were no longer doing what they should because my liver had become toxic. Though it’s been almost a decade since I’ve abused alcohol, God showed me I traded one addiction for another by going overboard on the sugar and caffeine. The damaging effects of sugar are mindnumbing…The price of so-called maintenance medications for preventable diseases like high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and diabetes, if nothing else is my motivation for getting myself on a better health track. 

In short though…INFLAMATION IS EXACERBATED BY TOO MUCH SUGAR…SO AUTOIMMUNE DISEASES LIKE ECZEMA, PSORIASIS, ASTHMA AND OTHERS ARE WORSENED DESPITE TOPICAL AND OR SURGICAL PROCEDURES…Arthritis, gout, boils, acne…hyper sensitivity to the sun makes you more susceptible to cancer...I mean basking outside all day in my yard working with flowers was my tranquil time with God for years. I would literally stay out there for hours with no problems, but then I began to burn like crazy the moment I stepped outside and sunscreen didn’t help. I was confined to my house because I’d become as mu cousin would say, a vampire…I now know I needed to detox my liver and my life of drama…all of these ailments are linked back to sugar and stress. I’m not putting anyone at fault here. Back then, the sun sensitivity should have clued me in, but I chopped it up to aging.  But God created our bodies to be resilient…if losing weight and getting active could reverse arthritis in my back, of course I know God has given me access to this info to keep this body in top shape and function…

So back my sugar rollercoaster…I was doing so well for about a month saying no to sweets. Then last week happened. I suppose it started with a lack of sleep that led to coffee that led to a sugar overload the next few days because the office had a conference room full of free goodies. It took me a few days to notice the changes in my skin, but by that 4th day it was apparent the sugar needs to go again…I wanted my glow back! By now I knew that make up wasn’t what I needed…even God’s led me to get certain types of that lately! Seriously, God desires you at your best and He will provide the means!

I thought about the moment I declared aloud, 

I don’t know how to stop once I start

That was when the temptation was greater and the offer was made when I happened to leave my lunch at home that first day. It’s as if the enemy sought to bring me exactly what I wanted because I mentioned this clue. I’m not knocking my bosses for giving us access to the treats, but I am aware of the tricks of the enemy. I know I need to be healthy to be more effective in ministry and while I held my own a while, when I was thirsty and hungry I fell off….

 I will say it’s been a wonderful life at home with my kids not having all that soda around. My daughter’s eczema improved.  Of course, I know when she cheats with sugar at school because it shows. Yet, my son is less anxious and I’m just cool. This is where I used to be and where I want to stay…I want my soul to prosper because that is what God wants…I want my children’s souls to prosper…I want my husband’s soul to prosper…And sometimes that means cutting out what you can’t handle yet, asking God to strengthen your resolve to refuse what the enemy is offering, and to develop a taste for His chosen alternative. 

“It would be easier if the devil would just say, here I’ve baked you up a lovely batch of poison because I want you to kill yourself one cookie at a time!”

But that’s not how he rolls…it’s not temptation if you don’t want it, is it? Moving on…

The bottom line is you must be willing to think before you consume that which is provided because while all good gifts come from the Lord, all gifts arent from Him. Recall how Jesus was tempted with bread when he was hungry. Moreover, stress was a major culprit for my lack of balance. I was constantly on edge at one point worried about my son because he’d been really rebellious for a while, but deep down God showed me He just needed me to listen to him when he spoke…to not try to remedy his issue…besides Jesus said, “give the boy to me!” That was a while ago, but what I just noticed is that 

Sooo now I’m getting back on  track to stay that way and I admonish you to do the same. After all, you really do only live once on this side of heaven so might as well make it last! 

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